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Biting/hitting?
Nov 24th, 2008, 11:09am
 
My kid is almost a year and a half and has been biting and hitting. Not sure where he picked it up from, but I'm looking for suggestions on how to curb it.
We've tried time outs and he's pretty good about sitting for those, but aside from that, I'm not really sure if it's working.

Thanks.
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Re: Biting/hitting?
Reply #1 - Nov 24th, 2008, 2:33pm
 
This may sound ridiculous but I used the same technique that I used on my puppy. When she hit or bit, I yelled [squeal - like noise saying "ouch"] which frightens them, and then I stopped interacting with her [for a short amount of time]. She quickly learned that this behaviour would not get her anywhere. I also learned very quickly that aside from when she was tired, this behaviour was usually precipitated by frustration of not being able to articulate a need or want. Trying to figure out what she wanted or distraction usually helped. It's amazing how innate this behaviour is because they don't learn it from us! Smiley
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Reply #2 - Nov 24th, 2008, 4:58pm
 
Key is the lack of attention. Acting out in any way shape or form may be curbed by redirecting, with consistency (for some consistency needs to be longer than a single night or even a week). Remember that once you engage them during a small battle you have lost.  (bitting hitting, screaming it is all the same) Lack of attention with quick redirection like timeout or these techniques should help. Good luck and stay strong
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Reply #3 - Nov 25th, 2008, 3:23pm
 
Have to agree with mediaman - SHORT timeouts are very affective. i use them sparingly but am sure to tell her in as few words as possible why she is going in to timeout. When it is over, i remind her of why she was in timeout and then give her a big kiss and hug. Smiley
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Re: Biting/hitting?
Reply #4 - Nov 25th, 2008, 4:28pm
 
You new guys are such a refreshment to this forum!  Thank goodness your hear!  You all sound such wonderful parents!  Thank you for you contribution.  It is well appreciated.
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Re: Biting/hitting?
Reply #5 - Nov 26th, 2008, 1:26pm
 
I prefer to think "perfect parent" ha ha ha!
As we all know from having kids, no one way works best and sometimes your way doesn't work at all!
Thanks goes to the admin of the forum for making this a topic in our discussion board.  I'd like to think that we can have decent conversations about kids and ourselves without the constant bickering and fighting re: politics and divergent opinions like the other topics.  
Sure is a breath of fresh air indeed!
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Re: Biting/hitting? Determine the cause first.
Reply #6 - Jan 2nd, 2009, 10:31am
 
At that age, kids don't have a solid grasp of language and the non-verbal -- especially the biting and the hitting to show displeasure -- are really effective. They also allow the child to control the situation.

Remain calm and determine why the child is biting and/or hitting. Then strategize.What is the child seeking? Attention? Then use a time-out.

Is it a lack of language? Then tell the child, "use your words. Say I am mad." Or better yet, if it's an anger issue, teach the child a variation of "If you're happy and you know it" -- "If you're mad and you know it, stomp your feet". That teaches the child to label his/her emotions and respond in an appropriate way.


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Re: Biting/hitting?
Reply #7 - Jan 2nd, 2009, 12:28pm
 
I'm one of those dinosaur parents who didn't do the time out thing with mine, but neither did I have a problem with my son ever hitting or biting me.  One thing we did do together on weekends to keep communication open was lay on the bed together (I was a single parent and thoroughly enjoyed it!) and tell each other:
you made me sad when: list things if any; you made me mad when: list if any and you made me glad when: list things and there were always some
This little technique helped us to discuss whatever happened during the week when we were no longer angry and to go over the things that made us happy - always end on the happy ones then roll around on the bed and hug and kiss.   Kiss

 
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Reply #8 - Feb 13th, 2009, 11:21am
 
I would try different techniques maybe let him alone in a room to himself in a corner or get it out of his head that it is bad to hit and bite and try to say kiss's and hugs instead. Obviously some one is teaching him these things....pre-school? church? friends..?
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Re: Biting/hitting?
Reply #9 - Jun 16th, 2009, 10:32am
 
My daughter started biting a while ago.

I found a solution that worked very quickly.

I took her fore-arm and put her teeth around her own skin and made her bite herself.

She realized how hard it hurts, and she has not bitten anyone since.

Good luck!
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Re: Biting/hitting?
Reply #10 - Oct 12th, 2009, 10:51pm
 
I also think that you must be more attentive to your baby. Lack of attention may cause serious problems in future.




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